Supporting Your High School Teen
High school can feel like a rollercoaster, and every teen needs someone in their corner cheering them on through the ups and downs. That someone should first be their parents. Our parents play one of the biggest roles in shaping who we become. From a young age, we learn things by watching our parents’ actions and attitudes. They are seen as their role model. Someone they look up to and hope to be in the future. This guides through their life into their teen years.
As a teenager, especially entering high school, very big changes happen. You start to see yourself shift into a whole different person you barely recognize. You aren’t that little kid anymore. You are the person your younger self has been eager to see. Sometimes it can be difficult to transition from elementary to high school. You may not have the same friends, a shift in the environment and daily routines, responsibility, and independence. This can be incredibly difficult to go through alone. This is where parents come in.
As a parent, it is important to put your teens needs before your own. Even wants. Parents want what is best for their teens. That’s why we are always pushed so hard to do well in school and continue that work ethic in post-secondary. There are some teens who fit this style and some that don’t, and that is completely okay. Just because you are struggling in school does not mean you are a failure. It most likely means you need a more hands-on job. This is where parents can help guide their children along the right path that best suits them and their learning needs. A path that sets them up for a bright future ahead of them. This can be done by taking the time to understand their strengths, struggles, and interests. It should not be done through expected standards that probably do not align with their learning needs.
When understanding this, parents can then encourage their teens to explore different careers and pathways. Do not leave your teen alone to figure out high school. It is best to stay by their side and even help find helpful resources that lead them to success. This can include things like tutoring or co-op. I am a current co- op student, and I find it extremely helpful and beneficial for my future. If there is ever a situation where your teen feels comfortable enough to share something with you, it is highly important to remind them that you are their safe space. Listen with open ears and without judgement. Provide them with the patience and understanding they so desperately need. Don’t only say what they may want to hear either. Some parents worry about hurting their teens, but you would only hurt them in the long run. It is important to say what your teens needs to hear, but it is even more important on how it is said. Instead of turning it into a lecture, try having an open conversation. Listen to your teen’s perspective, and share your advice in a understanding and non-demanding way. Teens willingly listen when they feel heard and respected. This will ensure your teens to always seek your advice.
At the end of the day, don’t stress about becoming perfect parents for your teens. They don’t need you to be perfect, they need present ones. Parents that will always stick by their side even through hardships. A little bit of patience, honesty, and support can make a huge difference in their growth journey of becoming capable young adults with well fitted futures.
-Shaylynn (High School Student)
